a way of living today

Written by Niek.

Living today means, as I understand it now, trying to live in peace with my emotions. Emotions, in general, act like significant milestones of life. Living in peace with them I do by celebrating the happy ones and dealing constructively with all kinds of unpleasant ones. Freely experiencing our current emotion helps us realize that our life is an unfolding process. In other words: growth and change are both possible. We can make more aware personal decisions regarding change. CCI co-counseling International offers us the tools to do so.

Our new awareness and ability to make new decisions can be applied to all three stages of our life: our personnel present, our personnel past and our personnel future. These are all marked by emotional events or expectations. New self awareness enables us to understand our emotional experiences and put them into words – as far as may be possible. This search for words, for what happens inside us, is itself a creative activity.

Though we are born alone and die alone, CCI co-counseling helps us to break down the loneliness in our lives. And though our experiences of fear, happiness, grief etc. is in the end individual, sharing it with our fellow travelers on the road fulfills a need in us. Some of those needs are very basic: to understand and be understood, to love and to be loved, and to be part of a bigger whole. We share always in a non authoritarian setting and in a climate of respect for everybody and everything, no matter what role we play. These basic emotional needs in the CCI co-counseling way of meeting them, are applicable to all stages of life: to children, to teenagers, to adults, parents, lovers, etc. All benefit from giving and receiving non judgmental, loving, caring aware free attention, the most powerful tool of CCI.

Trying to live in peace with our past, our present and our future is a goal of CCI co-counseling. We distinguish two main approaches: 1) the creative approach and 2) the cleaning one. The cleaning approach tends to deal with hurts from the past. Frozen painful experiences can be recycled and made harmless. The creative approach allows us to open up new possibilities: being our true self, creating a new way forward and coming to self realization. CCI co-counseling utilizes both approaches.

Our recent history has influenced the development of CCI co-counseling. The era of the second half of last century was dominated by post war influences. There was a real need for the cleaning approach: dealing with the past. Entering now an era of 'face the future', it is time to especially honor our creativity! The need for sharing our emotional life with others is a given, whether we deal with the past, the present or the future. To meet this basic need, we practice CCI co-counseling in pairs in a non judgmental setting with guaranteed confidentiality.                                                                                                                                             spring 2012

introduction to CCI

  • flowerThere's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.
    Aldous Huxley
  • I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.
    Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
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    Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.
    Rumi 1207-1273